09.23.07
Posted in LGBT Rights at 1:07 am by pleinelune
Image from Stonewallvets.org
Lee Hsien Loong has spoken, echoing both his predecessors in his views on homosexuality. It is interesting how the Father, the Holy Goh and the Spirit all seem to come down on the same side of the fence, willing to decriminalise but seeming to hold back for the fear of the “conservative majority”
As of this moment, I will not deny that my morale is pretty low. It does not seem likely that the decriminalisation will take place in this penal code review. We neither have the time, nor the political climate, or rather, weather, on our side, given that the second reading is just 1 month away. In the first place, the announcement of the first reading took us by surprise, as it was originally slated to take place next year. By the time we learnt about it, it was too late.
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- About: Pleinelune is exhausted
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- technorati: queer, lesbian, gay, decriminalisation, 377A, activism
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09.16.07
Posted in General, Support Groups, Youth at 10:18 pm by lublub
Hey Boys and Girls,
Young OUT Here, more affectionately known as yOUTh, is back!
All Fueled Up and Raring to Go, this second run is definitely more exciting, with a larger range of topics and social events you can look forward to!
What is yOUTh about?
Not affiliated with any organisations, yOUTh stands on its own as a gay identity building, affirming and support group, especially for youths, set up by youths!
yOUTh aims to reach out to LGBT teens who want to come together, to not only to learn from each other but also to share their experiences that they go through, building their own social and support network at the same time, in a safe and inclusive environment!
The theme for the second run is EMPOWERMENT. It will focus on skills for you to build on your individuality by discussing relevant topics. We’ve also included a bigger range of themes and a deeper emphasis on your relations with school, family, friends, relationships, the LGBT community and of course, yourselves.
What YOU can look forward to:
• Creative and informal discussions about topics that concern YOU!
• Safe and Inclusive environment
• Listening ears aplenty
• Guest Speakers to shed light on more serious topics and answer your questions!
• Snacks and drinks provided every session
• A great place to meet and make like-minded friends.
• A total of 12 sessions are planned with social outings peppered in between sessions for YOU to mingle and enjoy the company of your new friends!
A Taste of the Topics that will be covered:
• One Foot In, Both Feet OUT - Coming OUT and YOU
• Where We Belong - Our Community and YOU
• Class in Session - School and YOU
• Dearly Beloved - Family and YOU
• Trilogy of Love - Dating, Relationships, Breakups and being Happily Single!
• Bringing SexyBack - Safer Sex and YOU
• You and Only YOU – Healthy Gay Identity and YOU
The second run of yOUTh is slated to start in end Oct 07, spanning about 4 months.
Group Size will be capped at 15.
If you are interested, between the age of 16 to 21, LGBT and want to find out more, do contact us at young.out.here@gmail.com
If you do know of a fellow GLBT youth from this age group, do help to spread the word around!
yOUTH is sponsored by fridae.com and Action for Aids (Singapore)
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09.05.07
Posted in Bisexuality, Psychology & Research at 11:49 am by AnJ
A friend said to me…
“Anj, you are bisexual.”
He thinks i can swing both ways because of my past.
I once thought i was bisexual- judging from past behavior, i can be with a member of the opposite gender.
The thought lingered until i saw a more comprehensive definition of sexuality.
It’s here, in an article written quite a while back. “Preferred sexual activity” and “Preferred characteristics of sexual partners” said it all for me. I prefer women. It’s clear as day. My obsession for androgynous faces aside (which can include both genders), the most defining aspect of my sexuality is the distinct preference for female body parts. In fact, going by this definition, i can say with absolute confidence that i find the male physique unattractive. The bods in magazines, TV, everyday men… i have seen them all. The male body allures me at zilch point.
Dangle your average naked woman and average naked man before me, you will see my feet tapping steadily towards the babe.
“If you are lesbian, how can you be with guys?”
Because a relationship is not just about sex.
It’s about emotional connection as well. If i can communicate at a high frequency with a guy, spending time in his presence in myraid shared activities (e.g. movies, meals) is not unpleasant.
As i told many of my dear friends… i don’t see a difference between women and men beyond the physical. In my interactions with gals and guys, they are similar to me. [A reason why i cannot fathom male and female "energies".] The level of comfort is equal. The amount they offer in a conversation depends not on gender, but on their internal substance. You can see the same spirit or level of intellect or amount of passion… in a person, regardless of gender. As long as we don’t get into bed, i am happy interacting with both genders.
“Since you can be straight, why don’t you be straight?”
I cannot be straight.
I can force myself to behave sexually-straight at gun-point.
However, the sexual aspect of a relationship is fundamental to relationship health. As such, my preferred sexual characteristics of sexual partner is crucial to my well-being over the long term.
Thus the question is: Why should i act straight?
Why put on a facade for something that is so fundamental to my well-being… when it doesn’t hurt any other soul?
Anj is lesbian.
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