11.29.07
Posted in Singlehood at 12:24 am by Guest Writers
This guest article was written by ebelle
I haven’t been entirely single in over 12 years.
This is the first time that a relationship has ended for me without another one looming in the distance. When the full impact of my newfound singlehood finally hit me 6 weeks after our breakup, I was devastated and lost. However, now that I have finally accepted the fact that we are not going to be getting back together, a whole new world of possibilities has opened up.
So, what is so great about being single?
From www.dictionary.com
sin·gl /ˈsɪŋ
gəl/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[sing-guhl]
| 4. |
unmarried: a single man. |
| 5. |
pertaining to the unmarried state: the single life. |
It’s not such a bad thing being single, because it simply means I’m not married. I’m not alone, because there are many other single people out there. Or are there? Read the rest of this entry »
- About: ebelle is a self declared tai tai who enjoys shopping for clothes, shoes and bags.
- Forum discussion: Singles Camp
- technorati: Singlehood, lesbian, queer, dating
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11.21.07
Posted in Coming out, General, Identity at 1:38 am by jin
Just some thoughts on what I did on Mothers’ Day this year.
I normally have lunch every Sunday with my uncle and aunt. Usually it is just the three of us (since my grandfather passed away, my cousin went to study in Sydney and my sister moved to Malaysia). On Mothers’ Day my aunt and her siblings were doing a big family lunch with their mum, and they invited me to join them. My partner was not invited, because I am only out to my aunt and uncle (not to her extended family), and also because they still think it is wrong and they disapprove.
So lunch was at a lovely Thai restaurant and the food was delicious. It was all very “decent” and “civilised”, by which I mean that there was no mention of my partner. But of course how could there have been when the majority of the company do not know about us.
I think that being in the closet is both an active and passive thing. It is like walking a tightrope, a delicate balancing act. It is like sitting on one of those large rubber balls supposed to strengthen your core muscles; your aim may be to remain perfectly still but you are expending lots of energy just to maintain your balance on the bouncy sphere.
That is how I feel when I am with company that I am not out to. I feel as if I am always on guard, holding my breath in case they ask me the dreaded “Why don’t you have a boyfriend?”, double-filtering all my words before they come out of my mouth, and other fun varieties of mental Solitaire. Read the rest of this entry »
- About: By Jin
- Forum discussion: Sayoni Forum
- technorati: glbt, lgbt, queer, lesbian, family, mothers' day, acceptance, discrimination
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11.13.07
Posted in Politics, Psychology & Research at 1:22 am by AnJ
Let me refer to the article by Detenber et al (2007). The famous article used to support the retention of 377A.
Reference:
Detenber, B. H., Genite, M., Ku, M. K. Y., Ong, C. P. L., Tong, H. Y., & Yeow, M. L. H. (2007). Singaporeans’ attitudes towards lesbians and gay men and their tolerance of media portrayals of homosexuality. Internal journal of public opinion, 19(3), 367-379.
The anti-repeal camp jumped upon this statement made in opening statement of the conclusion segment: “Overall, this study found that most Singaporeans hold negative attitudes toward lesbians and gay men, and are rather intolerant towards media portrayals of homosexuality.” (Page 373).
What the researchers did: they called up Singaporean citizens over a period of 5 days and conducted interviews. They found that 68.6% of the participants expressed negative attitudes.
Here’s the break-down of predictors for negative attitudes:
1. Religion: Specifically Christians and Muslims were found to be least tolerant among Buddhists and free-thinkers.
2. Age: Older people are less tolerant.
3. Educational level: More educated people are more tolerant.
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- About: AnJ dislikes intentional misrepresentation of studies.
- Forum discussion: LGBT rights
- technorati: Singapore, gay, lesbian, politics, anti-gay attitudes
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Posted in General at 12:57 am by Guest Writers
This guest article was written by Donniboi
Over coffee, T asked, “Aren’t you worried that signing the petition and open letter for the repeal 377A campaign, would get you into trouble? Afterall, your home address has to be written down so that your signature is validated… and the government could easily trace you.”
I replied, “I did think of that when George Hwang approached me to hand-sign the petition…. For once, in the period of being totally out to my family members and friends, having no qualms discussing my sexual preferences, openly engaging in public display of affections with my partner, I actually found myself hesitating to disclose my sexuality on a dead piece of paper…. Holding the pen, wild and randoms thoughts raced through my mind…. like, i am a teacher and i know that MOE runs on an archaic system of ‘values’ shaped predominantly by the homophobic population…. what if my career is jeopardized?? Would I be blacklisted in the government sector??”
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tags:
377a,
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george hwang,
homophobes,
lesbian,
lgbt,
parliament,
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queer,
singapore government,
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- About: Reflections by Donniboi
- Forum discussion: Sayoni Forum
- technorati: glbt, lgbt, gay, queer, lesbian, 377a, singapore government, george hwang, petition, discrimination, homophobes, parliament
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11.01.07
Posted in Humour, LGBT Rights at 10:43 pm by pleinelune
Inspired by the likes of Thio Li-Ann and a commentor only known as Seowteochew. A shorter version was first posted here.
I’m going to let you guys in on a secret: all the rumours about the Gay Agenda are absolutely true. Every last word. In my hands I have the Masterplan of the Gay Community, otherwise known as Gaytopia 2050, hardcopy edition. I’ve obtained these plans from the headquarters of Homopolis, located somewhere in between the end of the rainbow and the pot of gold. It wasn’t easy sneaking it out, as I had to get past a couple of flamboyant queens who insisted on giving me makeup tips, and a whole army of dancing gay men who wouldn’t let me pass until I Flaunted it. And then there was the perilous trip across the oily and slippery room of diesel dykes, and the final barrier: walking through the Hall of Decadence.
Before the queens in high heels descend on me with their featherboas, I am going to give you all a sneakpeak in to the Masterplan, planned to the second, till 2050.
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